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Dear LiL – I just found out I am pregnant. Any suggestions on how to announce the news to my firm or general tips on navigating my new lawyer/mom role? Signed ~ Mom to be

Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Dear Mom to be: I took my maternity leave about four and a half years ago following the birth of my son. I was a senior associate at the time, on the partnership track. I will share here some of the things I think helped me navigate this time in my life. As I write this, I am acutely aware of the fact that there are few things in life more hotly debated than mothering – how we do it, how much of it we do, what we sacrifice in turn, and where our career fits into the picture. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry more

Dear LiL: What is something you do on a daily basis to help reduce the stress you feel from the tug of war with life and law? Signed ~ Stressed

Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Dear Stressed: Every day I listen to podcasts. I choose to listen to podcasts that help me understand the mechanisms of stress and the possible solutions. Of course not every person feels stress in the same way and not all solutions are cookie cutter but the most important thing I have learned to date is that we need people. We need to be able to talk to someone who will listen empathically to our issues that drive our stress. That is what we hope we can bring to Life in Law. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry more

Dear LiL: In your response to Trying to Change, her question spoke to being asked to take on additional work because she does NOT have kids. The response you gave spoke to having kids and juggling work. The discrimination against employees without kids was missed. Your response should have addressed how to say no when it’s expected that those without kids have lots of time to take on work. Signed ~ Oversight

Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Dear Oversight: Thanks for pointing out how we could improve on our response to Trying to Change.  I’d like to address it now. A child at home is certainly not the only pressure women lawyers face and one of my personal pet peeves is the mother/non-mother divide. Women, mothers or not, face unique challenges in the legal profession.  Many women today have children later in their careers or not at all.  Many of these women (disproportionate to their male counterparts, in my view) end up taking care of elderly parents and relatives.  Many are actively involved in their communities through volunteer work and board positions.  Some coach, tutor, write. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry more

8 Tips from the Life in Law Team on Working from Home

Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry As the Life in Law team has shifted into working from home in an effort to maintain social distancing, we thought it would be useful to share the best advice we’ve been given or learned along the way as we begin to settle into our new version of normal. With everything changing at such a rapid pace, the best we can do now is conduct business as usual, or our best version of it. This can be hard to do with kids, pets, significant others or even household duties distracting us from maintaining a regular workday. We get it. See our advice below, and please send us a message through any of our channels if you have a helpful strategy to add to the list.   Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry more

Dear LiL: How do you find the time to make sure you cover the bases in practice and life? Signed ~ Just Curious

Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry Dear Just Curious: So many days in my practice of life and law I wonder how I can manage to make it through the day. Each day is a new day of challenges and feelings of general incompetence. We all know that feeling but more recently it seemed to overwhelm me. I would leave the house in the morning wondering how I will fail to meet my expectations of myself in my personal life and my commitment to my husband and daughter only to be met with a whole new series of challenges and ‘to dos’ at my office. This feeling went on for about six weeks before I realized it was taking its toll. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry more


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