In the past four years, I have heard the term “imposter syndrome” more than I have heard it in my entire life. Perhaps it can be attributed to just starting out my legal career. Perhaps it is the cloud of isolation from friends and family – usual sources of support and encouragement – we all experienced during the pandemic. Perhaps it is because many of us are simply now more comfortable speaking about the topic. Whatever the reason, the increased frequency of the term caused me to reflect on how it has impacted my own life and what I can do to break past the barrier. I was in law school the first time I heard someone speak about imposter syndrome. I immediately thought, “well doesn’t everyone feel that way?” The feeling only grew as I started my articles and was called…

Expanding professional networks as an introvert can be challenging, but there are effective strategies that can make the process less daunting and more manageable. Here are five networking tips that I, a fellow introvert, consistently utilize to nurture and expand my professional relationships:   1. Use Online Networking Platforms Online platforms such as LinkedIn are an excellent way for introverts to connect with professionals both in and outside of their industry. Online platforms allow for thoughtful, well-crafted communication without the immediate pressure of face-to-face interactions. They are a useful way to keep your network updated on your professional milestones and to connect with others over mutual topics of interest. Tip: Start by joining groups related to your practice and participate in interesting discussions. Share articles, comment on posts, and send connection requests with personalized messages.   2. Prepare and Practice…

Sometimes, we are fortunate enough to have people close to us who believe in us and who support us unconditionally in achieving our greatest goals. But that is not always the case. This profession is notoriously challenging no matter what level of experience. The hours are long, clients depend on you, your colleagues depend on you, and you are constantly pulled in different directions having to readjust priorities and swiftly and efficiently resolve conflicts all at once. Not to mention home life responsibilities. It is no surprise that the burnout rate is high. In this line of work, it is important, and arguably essential, to have the right support systems in place. Support can come from family, friends, colleagues, or mentors. And when these sources of support appear to be lacking, we always have ourselves. When it comes to believing…

Dear LiL: Given a recent negative experience of facing dismissive attitudes from opposing counsel during negotiations, how can I assert myself more effectively in professional settings without being perceived as overly aggressive or confrontational?   There is a growing movement in the wellness space to embrace the “LET THEM” theory.  It is a reminder to choose your battles in a world where there can be so very many battles.  Is someone underestimating your level of intelligence? LET THEM.  Is someone talking negatively about you for striving to obtain your goals? LET THEM.   If you are not inspired to respect a person for their values, goals and behavior, then that person’s view of you should be of no concern to you. It is a lovely notion for bringing inner peace.  But, like anything in life, it requires context. As a lawyer,…

Admittedly, I am not Taylor Swift’s biggest fan, nor am I an NFL die-hard. But, like many of you, I tuned into the Super Bowl back in February – eagerly watching her reactions from the VIP suite. And I couldn’t help but ask myself, why? Regardless of my own personal feelings about Taylor Swift, there is no argument that she seems to have the whole world in the palm of her hand. In the landscape of contemporary pop culture, few figures have wielded as much influence over the discourse of female empowerment as Taylor Swift. Through her music and actions, she has catalyzed what many have come to call “The Taylor Swift Effect” – a phenomenon that inspires women to assert their voices, pursue their dreams, and challenge societal norms. This got me thinking – how can we apply “The…